Unsuccessful, mediocre looking and on a budget? Lucky Us!

We live in a society that worships things such as good looks, hard bodies, money, success and fame. Therefore, for those of us that don't have model good looks, perfect bodies, riches or wildly successful careers, it's easy to feel less desirable in the dating world. No matter how many people say "it matters what's on the inside" we on know on some level in the practical world good-looking, successful and rich people more easily attract dates and attention.

So what's the good news you're wondering? Well I'm not going to tell you that there is some secret that can make you get just as many dates as George Clooney or Jennifer Anniston could. However, there is one very important reason why we actually have it better than the rich, famous and exceptionally good-looking. I've decided to keep this blog very simple and hope that you let the simplicity soak in on your own until you truly comprehend the sheer truth of it and can celebrate the greatness of this insight.

Warning! This is politically incorrect (although true)!
When those of us that our average looking, with less than perfect bodies and modest incomes find someone that loves us, we know that they love us for the right reason. When I see an unattractive poor couple blissfully staring into each others eyes and a very attractive rich couple staring into each others eyes, I automatically envy the unattractive poor couple as I know they really love and care about each other for the right reasons. If a hot chick loses her looks for some reason, will all those suitors still be there because they were wildly crazy for her personality? If an extremely wealthy man loses all his money, will all the same women that were chasing him the week before still going to be chasing him because they loved who he is on the inside? Of course it's easy to get jealous of these people when we see them going out on date after date, having members of the opposite sex calling them and dishing out their phone numbers like candy. But should we really be jealous. Should we really be jealous for the attention that they're getting? Well, of course we're human and will still be a little jealous (let's just be honest here). But it's nice knowing that when I find love, I won't have to worry that he'll leave me for someone younger as my looks age, or that if I lose my career he'll be ashamed of me, or if I grow old without having done anything to gain me worldwide recognition, he'll still know what an amazing soul I am.

It's always shocking to me when I hang out with groups of people who've achieved great success, have money or good looks, that everyone they're surrounded with is so shallow (and often quite boring). One blessing I've had in my life is to hang out with all types of people; famous and infamous, rich and poor, good-looking and plain, successful and unsuccessful. In all these experiences, I know that it's no coincidence that the people surrounding the rich, good-looking, famous and or successful were shallow, superficial, boring and unexciting. I've definitely had the best times of my life with the simple folk. Think of the scene in the Titanic where the rich people were at the ball dancing stiffly, judging each other, having tediously boring conversations, while the plain folk were downstairs roaring in laughter, dancing wildly about and having ridiculous amounts of fun. That was a great juxtaposition of how life is. Everyone thinks the rich, glamorous good-looking people when really it's the plain folk in the simple places that get to experience so much joy, genuineness and true connection with others.

Right now, it's easy for me to look at the hot chick walking into the grocery store making all the guys heads turns, but then I remember they aren't looking at her personality, they don't care about learning what she's passionate about and they don't respect her anymore than me. They want to sleep with her. And all those guys create a barrier between her and the genuine ones, so between the two of us (hot chick and me) I figure I've got it much better than she does. I'm over here with the genuine guys while she's distracting all the shallow ones. I really should send her a thank you card I guess.