You Get What You Give

Most of us women get a fairytale idea in our heads (even if it's subconscious) about what kind of guy we want. It's been shaped by the media, society, fairytales, movies, our friends and lots of messages that surround us. However, we often focus more on what we want in a guy instead of what we can offer. It's a universal truth that you tend to attract whatever it is you give off. Therefore if our lists includes a rich doctor or lawyer, that is smart, funny, generous, romantic, talented, funny, good-looking, well dressed, attentive, sensitive, thoughtful and motivated, do we have the same traits? It's great to recognize your strengths, love yourself and feel that you deserve good in a partner, but sometimes we end up seeking more quality traits than we've taken the time to develop in ourselves. Want someone who's thoughtful? We must be thoughtful. Want someone who is smart and educated? We should work to be smart and educated. Want someone who volunteers and gives back to the community. We should be volunteering and giving back to the community. If we're working in a remedial job with low pay, we haven't tried to further our education, we spend little time improving ourselves, have few hobbies, watch tv, pursue superficial interests and haven't been motivated to set many goals for ourselves. It's unrealistic to think that we will attract someone that is the opposite of those things.

Therefore, instead of simply looking for a guy that matches the criteria on our list, we should make our list and then figure out how we can make that list come to fruition in our own life and we will naturally start attracting men with similar traits, values and qualities.